Stalkers, Crazies, and Creepers

What is with crazy guys? The guys that don't seem to let go of the relationship. The guys that are creepy, stalkerish, or they have some sort of mental issues. Those type of guys seem to flock to me and my friend. Some examples because these stories are always fun. The most recent one was my friend to protect her identity I am going to say Ashley and her "boyfriend" Joe. Joe was the most overproctecive boyfriend I have seen in a long long time. He called at least 10 times a day and asked what Ashley was doing and why. He would emotional abuse her and didn't respect her whats so ever. Whenever she would go out with us Joe would call "I don't undestand why you are going out with them, you should be talking with me" He was so selfish and didn't give her any space. Ashley didn't know how to stand up for herself. She would let joe walk all over her "Oh Joe is just like that...he said he's sorry for treating me like crap...he'll never do it again. Whatver that is load of crap. He would also manipulate her, and twist her words around to make him look like the victim . ALWAYS... So the other night after she spent 2 hours on the phone with Joe crying because Joe was yelling at her for hanging out with us. She kept saying I'm sorry Joe I'm so sorry. blah bah My roommates and I had an intervention with her. We sat her down after the converstion and said Ashley this can not go on any longer, he is not a stable person and her treats you like CRAP. She said I know...I don't know if can break up with him. I said you have too...he is not going to change no matter what you say or do. We decided to do an experiment ;since he calls 10 times a day we told Ashley to not answer the phone for the entire day. We told her the only call you should make is the one that would break the relationship. I am not joking you...he called over 200 times. What kind of crazy ass does that. Fuck. All his messages were him crying and then they started to get threatening. This was a big red flag to Ashley that said I need to end this tonight. I was so proud of her that night when she took charge over the phone. On the other end of the phone i've never heard anything more pathetic in my life. He was actually crying, i call it blubbering, to her and saying I'm sorry I'll change..I have changed ...I will make your life perfect if you give me one more chance. Ashley has given him more than enough chances. The converstion got to the point where it was funny. After two hours of him carrying on she ended, she told him to let her go and he was not to come up. Joe said no we have plans I'm coming up. NOOOOO! Well we new then that things were going to get ugly. About three hours later he shows up at the door. He started banging and we didn't answer. Then he goes around to all the windows and starts throwing things at them. Thank GOd we live on the second floor. We finally just said fuck it and we called the police. They came and escorted him off the property. Ashley fearing for her saftey got picked up by her cousin to go have a relaxing weekend.

That is just one of the many crazy people I have encountered in the past 6 months. My stories include things such as creepers at parties that won't leave me alone, to a bipolar boyfriend that one day loved me the next day I was fat whore, to a certain married man that just broke me. What 40 year old puts all that emotional stress on a 20 year old. I am type of person that has the constent need to help and fix people. Once he started telling me his sob stories...I got attached emotional and later physically. WHERE DO I FIND THESE PEOPLE???? And where are the normal people. The people that treat with respect, compliment you, people that don't get up on you on the first date. Where are you? I know of one...the person that appears from the outside perfect but who the hell knows anymore... I can't trust anyone...but I percieve him to have all the right characteristics of a good, respectable yet totally fab male figure. He is happily married with a little girl so i have learned my lesson there...hands off. I have known him for about 2 years and form now on he is going to be my standard for men. Things that he does that guys that I've been with should take some fucking notes: Complimenting my outfitts and everyones for that matter, he notices little details: like if someone gets a hair cut, treating everyone with the respect the way they deserve, he is very intelligent: i can actually have a decent conversation with him imagine that, a great listener, and oh he knows how to dress. He is very comfortable in his skin which shows, but not in a pompas assholish way. Those are all the general things and then we have the fact that we have similar tastes in music which most of our conversations are based on. And we have similar political views so that makes life a little easier when you don't have to defend yourself all the time. Why don't people like him exsist in the single world. My god! I am just at my wits end with all of this shit. I am tired of people getting too clingy and stalking me, not treating me with respect and fucking breaking my heart.

This song is by Sugarland...kind of sums up how I feel.
"Stay"

I've been sitting here staring at the clock on the wall
And I've been laying here praying, praying she won't call
It's just another call from home
And you'll get it and be gone
And I'll be crying

And I'll be begging you, baby
Beg you not to leave
But I'll be left here waiting
With my Heart on my sleeve
Oh, for the next time we'll be here
Seems like a million years
And I think I'm dying

What do I have to do to make you see
She can't love you like me?

Why don't you stay
I'm down on my knees
I'm so tired of being lonely
Don't I give you what you need
When she calls you to go
There is one thing you should know
We don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay

You keep telling me, baby
There will come a time
When you will leave her arms
And forever be in mine
But I don't think that's the truth
And I don't like being used and I'm tired of waiting
It's too much pain to have to bear
To love a man you have to share

Why don't you stay
I'm down on my knees
I'm so tired of being lonely
Don't I give you what you need
When she calls you to go
There is one thing you should know
We don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay

I can't take it any longer
But my will is getting stronger
And I think I know just what I have to do
I can't waste another minute
After all that I've put in it
I've given you my best
Why does she get the best of you
So next time you find you wanna leave her bed for mine

Why don't you stay
I'm up off my knees
I'm so tired of being lonely
You can't give me what I need
When she begs you not to go
There is one thing you should know
I don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay, yeah

and thats my sob story for the day I'll stop now! oh and I didn't beg...I felt like it but retrained myself.